I am affected only by my thoughts.
It needs but this to let salvation come to all the world. For in this single thought is everyone released at last from fear. Now has he learned that no one frightens him, and nothing can endanger him. He has no enemies, and he is safe from all external things. His thoughts can frighten him, and nothing can endanger him. He has no enemies, and he is safe from all external things. His thoughts can frighten him, but since these thoughts belong to him alone, he has the power to exchange them and exchange each fear thought for a happy thought o f love. He crucified himself. Yet God has planned that His beloved Son will be redeemed.
Your plan is sure, my Father, – only Yours. All other plans will fail. And I will have thoughts that will frighten me, until I learn that you have given me the only Thought that leads me to salvation. Mine alone will fail, and lead me nowhere. But the Thought You gave me promises to lead me home, because it holds Your promise to Your Son.
Are mind games a form of control one of my clients asked me. Without hesitation I said yes, and then stopped to ponder it further. Why is it controlling? Because it keeps others on edge, keeps them guessing, they can never relax, never be certain about the things being played with; and if that happens to be the relationship itself, then it’s highly controlling. But what if the other person also plays mind games? Then what you have is a game of chess – not a relationship.
But let’s not be condemning of the game player. Such people are hugely insecure, and their main purpose is to make others feel as insecure as they do. They will often befriend you, get you to confide in them, and pretend to share some deep dark secret with you in the hope that you will reciprocate; and when you do they will use your secret/hopes/ambitions/ whatever, to manipulate you. It’s sometimes hard to get out of such relationships because you feel this person knows more about you than anyone, and because sometimes they will revert to being really nice, how you remembered them before the mind games.
You have to ask yourself – how long do I want to live with this? Bearing in mind that if you decide to end the relationship the game player will know which of your buttons to press to make you stay. It may be helpful to enlist the help of a good friend or a professional to help you stand firm, and to help you re-build your self esteem which will invariably have been damaged in the process. How much will depend on how long and how deep you were in the relationship.
I did an EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy) session today, to help with my fear of dogs, which again proved to me its all in the mind. See separate blog.